I went to see Mom last Thursday, as usual, and had about 10 minutes out of 40 minutes of quality/nice time. after that I became the target, yet again, and was basically told that I'm a lousy daughter. I don't love her, I don't come to see her enough, I don't do what ever she wants me to do enough and so on and so on.
I finally asked her why she always tries to make me feel like dog-doo whenever I come and all she would say was, "you don't have to come anymore," I said that that was not an answer and again asked her to answer the question, only to receive the same response or better yet, her simply staring off to space. Not looking at me at all. Of course the tears filling her eyes. Even the caregiver came over to try to get her to talk to me. Nothing.
I have to tell you, it;s so upsetting to try to visit with her and constantly be told how lousy I am. I try to explain that I work, I've been teaching class all morning, had 1 break 4 hours earlier, I'm hungry but still I come week after week. Crickets!
Dementia sucks. It's a mean disease and affects everyone around it. I called her yesterday to let her know we have to postpone my brothers' birthday dinner and she was pleasant. What the h__l?
I was so happy to have a 90 minute massage scheduled for Friday. I needed it.
Another issue is my beloved Putney. I have a bad feeling he has a form of cancer. I have to take him to the vet, of course to be sure, but my gut is reeling. He doesn't seem to be in pain though. Thats a blessing. I'll have to decide if I want him to risk all of the types of "cure" at his age. Sometimes the cure is worse than the disease. I am scared but I need to know. He doesn't want his kibble, but then he never did. This weekend I started giving him boiled chicken with rice and chicky broth. That he chows down like a wolf. His appetite is up & running.
I looked up some of the symptoms he is presenting and it doesn't look good. My big boy. His appointment is for this coming Friday.
Putney does still love to hear the word "walk" and gets excited when I get home from work or where ever I come home from. that is also a good sign to me.
I worked with a new client on balance recently. One of the 1st things I spoke to him about about was posture. I don't understand how so many people have difficulty getting the link between posture and balance. I'm not just speaking about clients but trainers too.
Postural alignment is essential to balance. Having the body stacked properly allows for greater movement efficiency. Forcing "sleeping" muscles to reawaken, if you will, to do their job instead of the wrong musculature engaging. Then moving on to strengthening the CORE musculature to support the body. Don't forget, CORE musculature isn't just the abs, people. It includes the abs but also consists of the glutes, thighs, back & chest muscles. Anything attached to the spine & pelvis are considered CORE muscles and all of them need to be addressed. Utilizing much of Dr. Burdenko's work gave this person so much benefit. I was so happy for him.
We used nothing but body weight movements, working all around the torso and the thighs. Zero external weight added.
Anyways, the improvement was astounding. We worked on some core strength as well as balance work using 3 pieces of equipment. 1) a Burdenko stick, 2) a bench, 3) a mat. Thats it. By the way, the stick weighs about 6 oz. if I remember right. Next to nothing.
Posture is KEY, folks. No one cares if you can lift a 400# chest press bar if you can't walk upright. Whats the point?
Here's a great & simple exercise to begin your journey to better core strength & posture.
Marching; Lie back on mat or bench. If necessary add a rolled towel under the head for support. Knees up in a table top position, or hips at 90 degrees and knees bent at 90 degrees. Slowly lower 1 leg down towards the floor, ONLY as far as the pelvis does not move and the curve in the low spine does not increase. Lift back up to start position and repeat with 2nd leg. Do this 10-15x's, 2-3 sets.
Anyways, activity is a fabulous stress reliever and I've been taking some dance classes after work lately. I feel soooooooooo much better.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, try going for a brisk walk, jumping in the house (especially for those stuck in the house), go to the gym, get on a bike, toss some hoops, just go do something physical. I promise you, it will help. It clears the mind, letting you think clearly and objectively, increases the secretion of some of those "happy" hormones, and you'll feel so much better about yourself having taken a pro-active approach.
Get out there. Peace.
Keep dancing people & stay well.